The Mourning

4Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Matthew 5:4

I bet you've lost your keys before. You've probably lost the television remote control. It's highly likely that you've lost at least five dollars in the couch cushions or in the laundry. I imagine that, except for a little inconvenience, there wasn't much suffering and pain going on.
I've seen those court shows where the plaintiff is suing for $5000, 1000 for car damages in a minor accident and $4000 for emtional suffering. Give me a break. Unless you lose a limb or a family member, there can't be much suffering in that way.
It's called mourning. That is emotional suffering. And no amount of money will do away with it or heal it. All it does is drive insurance rates up and medical bill up to cover the insurance rates. No one wins.
Mourning occurs when something valuable beyond monetary measure is loss. A spouse. A close friend. A son or daughter. It could also happen if you feel like you've let someone down and they've let you know that you have. It is a feeling that something needs to be fixed, a hole needs patching and there is nothing you cna do about it. You've asked for explanations. You've begged forgiveness for whatever you did to bring this all about. You've cried, and wept and cried some more. It is grief and only time can make it fade.
It is part of life for those who love. Those who seem not to mourn, most likely do not love what they've lost. They could just be hiding the pain. This person may claim to be over it. But pain does not heal when ignored. It may grow silent, but it will return during a song or a certain smell. Then you're overwhelmed with all the emotions involved in grief at once, instead of a bit at a time.
The pain won't heal or fade quickly. But think of what a child does when they hurt. They don't try to hide the pain. A child may grow angry and lash back at the inflictor. They cry out and eventually run to mom.
Jesus said that those who mourn are blessed. If you do not mourn, you deny your humanity. You deny that you love something. And you miss out on receiving love. Those who mourn are blessed, for only when you admit your pain can you be comforted. You aren't healed, but comforted, listened to and given a shoulder to cry on. You are given the promise that you will carry on. This comes from God. And without mourning, there can be no comfort.
They say that the first step to overcoming any problem is to admit that it is there. God can only be there for you if you let him. Give it over to him.